The Newborn Survival Guide

10 Things No One Tells You (But You'll Be Glad You Knew)

First of all, congratulations. Whether you’re expecting your first baby or are freshly in the newborn fog, you’re doing something huge. Life is about to shift in the most beautiful, intense, and sometimes chaotic way.

This guide was created to help you feel a little more prepared and a lot more supported.

These aren’t the textbook tips you’ll hear in every parenting book. These are the honest truths no one tells us, the things we wish we knew earlier.

1. Cluster Feeding is Normal and Temporary

Your baby may seem like they want to feed constantly, especially in the evenings. It doesn’t mean something is wrong. It’s called cluster feeding, and it helps regulate your milk supply and comfort your baby.

Tip: Make yourself a comfy feeding station with water, snacks, and something to watch or read.

2. Newborns Don’t Sleep "Through the Night"

Newborns wake every 2–3 hours because their tummies are tiny and their nervous systems are still maturing. This is frustrating, but normal.

Tip: Sleep when you can. Lower your expectations and protect your rest fiercely, even short naps help.

3. Crying Isn’t Always a Problem to Fix

Not all crying means “fix it now.” Babies use crying to communicate, adjust, and release tension. You’re not doing anything wrong if you can’t soothe your baby instantly.

Reminder: Being present and calm matters more than being perfect.

4. You’re Allowed to Set Boundaries With Visitors

You don’t owe anyone access to your baby or your home, especially if you’re tired, healing, or just not up for it. Visitors should support you, not stress you.

Script: “We’re keeping things low-key right now, but we’ll let you know when we’re ready for company.”

5. Feeding Yourself Matters, Too

In taking care of your baby, don’t forget to nourish yourself. You matter and your body is doing so much.

Tip: Prep grab and go snacks before baby arrives (trail mix, granola bars, fruit) and stash them everywhere.

6. Your Baby Doesn’t Need a Perfect Routine Yet

The first few weeks are more about rhythm than routine. Your baby is learning what life outside the womb feels like and it’s okay if every day looks different.

Gentle goal: Watch for sleepy cues, follow baby’s lead, and aim for calm more than control.

7. It’s Okay If You’re Not Bonding Instantly

That deep, magical bond? Sometimes it happens right away. Sometimes it builds slowly. Either is normal.

Reminder: Love grows. You're doing beautifully.

8. Ask for Help, and Keep Asking

You weren’t meant to do this alone. Whether it’s a partner, friend, doula, coach, or grandparent, accept help where you can.

Tip: Be specific. Instead of “Can you help?” try: “Can you bring food or watch the baby while I shower?”

9. Capture the Little Moments

You don’t need a fancy baby book to preserve memories. Snap a photo of baby’s stretch. Record a sleepy coo. Write down one thing that made you laugh.

Pro Tip: Set up a shared digital album with your partner or family to document the first weeks without pressure.

10. You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Some days will feel like a blur. Others will make you cry with joy. Most will be both. You're showing up. You're learning. You're loving your baby fiercely.

That’s enough. More than enough.

~Jen